Hot Chocolate and a Book – How to Win Friends and Influence People

This book can be read again and again. And again. You here people that are familiar with the top motivational and success genre books saying “Oh I read that already!” From my perspective, we can stand to pick it up every so often and read some of the books basic principles.

*Please note the true story the gender, name and some aspects of the story may have been changed to protect the person’s involved.

Once, I saw a particularly rude manager removed and replaced quickly due to her inability to work with everyone and speak kindly to those that were subordinate to her. No one likes to be criticized, and even constructive criticism depending on how it is delivered can be not-so-constructive. At best, it can make a person weary and be very cautious when they around you for fear of failure. And this can create more fear and failure. At worst, criticism if not sandwiched between encouragement can be devastating to a person’s self-esteem.

As a working songwriter and artist, I have worked with numerous types of people and have learned so much.  Caring about the needs of others has not always been the case for me, but as I have learned to let down my guard and fears, I have found that getting to know others resolves the need to be afraid. Everyone has a personality and deserves to be heard. Those who tend to think the world revolves around them and are less caring of other’s views and opinions tend to (in my experience) fail or they do not stick around very long. The cream always floats to the top.

One of the main understandings I have from this book on how to deal with people is to let go of the need to be right. Arguing with people rarely solves anything if the person has dug and and is willing to fight you over their beliefs. If this is the case, you will never win anyway.

Another area that has helped me, following reading this book is the concept of honor. These days I rarely hear the word. When you let a person be who they are, you honor them. You do not have to agree, but you can accept their diversity and their humanity. God loves us All.

 

*Please note the true story the gender, name and some aspects of the story may have been changed to protect the person’s involved.

Once, I saw a particularly rude manager removed and replaced quickly due to her inability to work with everyone and speak kindly to those that were subordinate to her. No one likes to be criticized, and even constructive criticism depending on how it is delivered can be not-so-constructive. At best, it can make a person weary and be very cautious when they around you for fear of failure. At worst, criticism if not sandwiched between encouragement can be devastating.

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