You can do it.
Following the watching the documentary The Business of Being Born (Praise God for Netflix! and Ricki Lake!), an insightful documentary about natural childbirth and midwifery, I knew I wanted to experience a natural childbirth. The whole thing never dawned on me that I could even have a home birth (yes, I did not consider it) and being fully involved in the process too– I had options! Not only that, but that birth could be such a beautiful sacred experience than what we were being told in traditional healthcare.
This post is not intended to put down any other birth experience, I just want to continue to add a spotlight to having a home birth and midwifery. I’ll admit as I have learned more about myself I have found that I have gotten more and more adamant about taking control of my health and in wanting to be as close to nature (meaning our Creator) had intended things. I believe the Lord led me to that documentary and it spurred me on in researching for my home birth.
When planning a homebirth, here are some things I encountered that you may want to be cognizant of:
- Find the right midwife. I personally had an awesome midwife Sarah Branson (for those in the Maryland – DC- Virginia area) that was thoroughly involved in educating me on the process of giving birth at home and was very positive.
- Have a birth plan and continue to share with midwife. Everyone says have a plan for EVERYTHING and it is true. The pregnancy was a very positive experience where I was able to discuss regularly with my midwife how I was feeling and what I was experiencing during each trimester. She also had recommendations as we prepared for labor that made preparing more of something I was in control of, not just a participant.
- Be ready for what happens next. I think for me having a home birth, I was not aware of all the tests required and well, what to do next. Sarah had a checklist of the after birth plan, yet I still was a deer in the headlights (but it is OK). And the midwife has the ability to do so much and checked in multiple times after the birth!
- To circumcise or not to circumcise. If you have a boy, like I did, you will need to decide if you having a circumcision for your son. If you are in the DC/MD area, Rabbi Avraham Rappaport did the deed and was so efficient and quick, such as it is. I was so nervous and you want it done right!!! My little one barely whimpered. How about that for circumcision.
- Talk to other new moms, but follow your own narrative. People can place their story on you, yet you don’t have to accept it. Having a home birth right now can seem a bit out there and you want to stay as optimistic as possible.
- Believe for a joyful delivery. Mines was painful (I wish I WAS one of the unicorns!), but I am thankful to say I felt safe and confident the whole time in my
care providers. I talked to one coworkers wife who gave me the awesome advice of creating a mood for my birth. My birth experience was quiet and intimate.
- Find and research for an excellent lactation consultant. So I was probably the only person who did not know it was a thing despite being given advice otherwise. All I can say in a positive way is ensure you find one who is good. Seriously, find one that is good.
- For breastfeeding and food scheduling check out
- Dr. Mercola
Happy Pregnancy and beyond!