Hot Chocolate and a Good Book – Burn the Business Plan

Hot Chocolate and a Good Book – Burn the Business Plan

It is interesting today that everyone is considered an expert. We have a culture where you can youtube anything and get someone’s opinion on how something should be done and the steps to do it. This is a wonderful and extraordinary thing because information is readily available. I believe this book is for the person that has fallen through the cracks who has not heard the “how” and that life truly is very much a possibility for them.
Burn the Business Plan is for you the unconventional, the nonconformist, the pioneer who like me, sees thing in a brilliant shade of rose. Not because you are a pollyanna, but because you know there has to be something better.

Sitting in a lunch meeting, it struck me that I was a bit sad. A small sense of melancholy had begun to seep yet again into my heart, yet I said a silent prayer to the Creator and felt encouraged.

It is funny how goodness can fall into your lap if you allow it. There has been many blessings that have fallen into my lap recently following a bit of discouragement.

I am learning and will continue to be a student. Take heart my friend. This is an ongoing race and one that you can decide to continuously win and again step up and win. No matter whether you are a Millennial or a Baby Boomer. Again take heart my friend.

This particular blessing that fell upon me was a book “given” to by one of the contributors of the book. The book is called Burn the Business Plan by Carl K. Schramm and it provides a realistic and practical look at business—examining commonly held beliefs that may have been a burden to you who have not (yet) fulfilled your goals. I will not go into too much detail as the statistics he provides should be read by you for yourself. I will say that Mr. Schramm, having run the Kaufmann foundation for 10 years and being a successful entrepreneur in his own right,  has worked with and interviewed  many entrepreneurs to find out the real story of start up and their successes. It is very different from what you may think.

No, this is not for affiliate sales…just from one reader to another! God bless :

Hot Chocolate and a Good Book – The Go-Giver

Hot Chocolate and a Good Book – The Go-Giver

[vc_row][vc_column][vc_column_text]”Putting others’ interests first and continually adding value to their lives—ultimately leads to unexpected returns.”

The book is about “Joe [who] is a true go-getter, though sometimes he feels as if the harder and faster he works, the further away his goals seem to be. And so one day, desperate to land a key sale at the end of a bad quarter, he seeks advice from the enigmatic Pindar, a legendary consultant referred to by his many devotees simply as the Chairman.

Over the next week, Pindar introduces Joe to a series of “go-givers:” a restaurateur, a CEO, a financial adviser, a real estate broker, and the “Connector,” who brought them all together. Pindar’s friends share with Joe the Five Laws of Stratospheric Success and teach him how to open himself up to the power of giving.”


Why should you read the Go-Giver? Hmm, all I know is that we are in a time where great customer service with genuine humanity can be a rarity. There are people who are hurting, really hurting, and maybe just maybe, your sincere warmth and kindness will be the turning point that someone needs. Why not you?? Yes, it can be hard to genuinely love on someone who may or may not be lovable, but the freedom it provides is truly extraordinary.

Case in point. So. My car needed a bit of repair. (I promise there is a point to this story.) And like you and most people these days, I googled online for an auto repair service and went with the first place with the best reviews. There I found (with 127 positive reviews and counting!), Columbia Auto Collision, Columbia, MD.  I was still apprehensive though because, well it can be hard to trust just anyone without a friend’s reference. With that in mind, I went in with low (very low) expectations.  However, I did not need to. The owner, Eddie, was a delight to talk to, quickly assessed the situation and quickly fixed my little fifteen year old Acura. This man, who happily talked about his family, his wife of over 40 years, and his love for his business, made a exuberant impression. But what really stood out was that he truly seemed to care about me as a customer.  Shoot, why did I even remember his name..?? Well, for one I enjoy (now) learning about people, but two because he really had excellent customer service skills and was that personable.

Allow me to also share that I had already bought into this premise and lifestyle by way of Dani Johnson.  The Go Giver sums up some of her teachings very nicely and adds additional perspective.

OK, so back to why this book is such a big deal. Well…for me, I have always worried about my music, my career, and being a success. Getting caught up in proving myself and somehow proving to others that I was more than what I assumed people thought of me (check out my Dad’s favorite definition for assumed) really put me in bondage. Yet, what I have learned again and again in using the principles listed in the book and other understandings, is that no one really cares about me, lol. Or what I am doing. And I LOVE that. The big question is “How can I help?”

Please say this like Oprah would: Freedommm!!!!!

At the end of the day, if you put the focus on the other person and concern yourself with helping, you can relax and be yourself.


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Hot Chocolate and a Book – How to Win Friends and Influence People

Hot Chocolate and a Book – How to Win Friends and Influence People

This book can be read again and again. And again. You hear people that are familiar with top motivational and success genre books saying, “Oh I have read that already!” From my perspective, we can stand to pick it up every so often and read some of the book’s basic principles.

*Please note in this the true story the gender, name and some aspects of the story may have been changed to protect the person’s involved.

Once, I saw a particularly rude manager removed and replaced quickly due to her inability to work with everyone and speak kindly to those that were subordinate to her. No one likes to be criticized, and even constructive criticism depending on how it is delivered can be not-so-constructive. At best, it can make a person weary and be very cautious when they around you for fear of failure. And this can create more fear and failure. At worst, criticism if not sandwiched between encouragement can be devastating to a person’s self-esteem.

As a working songwriter and artist, I have worked with numerous types of people and have learned so much.  Caring about the needs of others has not always been the case for me, but as I have learned to let down my guard and fears, I have found that getting to know others resolves the need to be afraid. Everyone has a personality and deserves to be heard. Those who tend to think the world revolves around them and are less caring of other’s views and opinions tend to (in my experience) fail or they do not stick around very long. The cream always floats to the top.

One of the main understandings I have from this book on how to deal with people is to let go of the need to be right. Arguing with people rarely solves anything, especially if the person has dug in and and is willing to argue with you over their beliefs. If this is the case, you will never win anyway.

Another area that has helped me, following reading this book is the concept of honor. These days I rarely hear the word. When you let a person be who they are, you honor them. You do not have to agree, but you can accept their diversity and their humanity. God loves us All.

5 Ways to Defeat Shyness

5 Ways to Defeat Shyness

[vc_row][vc_column][vc_column_text]Are you afraid to get out there and be bold? Reticent and shy in front of others? If this is a yes, I understand it and empathize with you… because I am constantly conquering fear.  (more…)

Hot Chocolate and a Book – The Power of Positive Thinking

Hot Chocolate and a Book – The Power of Positive Thinking

[vc_row][vc_column][vc_column_text]For me one of the most simple, yet profound books that has touched my heart has been The Power of Positive Thinking by Norman Vincent Peale. I first ‘found’ and read the classic book when I was at a low point separated from my husband (we have since remarried) and unemployed. My weight had crept up and i was living with my Aunt and Uncle trying to find a job, any job.

Sitting here, reliving a bit of that pain and uncertainty…well. God is Good. I believe He found me where I was that day.

At the time, the library and brick and mortar bookstores were my solace. (I miss having a Barnes and Noble every five miles.) There, I would sit for hours sending out my resume and reading anything I could to encourage myself. It was a horrible winter that year in Maryland and feeling incredibly alone and like a big loser, I stumbled upon this book, which I read completely in a night. I continued to read and re-read the book! It has been a treasure to my life.

The principles are simple –have an simple trust in our Lord and believe He can and will help you. So simple, yet no other book has quite touched me the way Mr. Peale’s book has.

Today, we get a lot of flack from pop culture and the media about mere ‘positive thinking’. Yet in this case the positive thinking is wholly placing your faith in the goodness of Jesus Christ. Simply believe that things will go well with you and the Lord is your advocate.  To admit that to you and say I have struggled with this concept as I question everything, I would sit for hours considering Mr. Peale’s ‘theories.’ Yet, I had no option, I was in a dark place and had to get out. The pain I felt during that time was almost unbearable, not to mention embarrassing.[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][vc_raw_js]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[/vc_raw_js][/vc_column][/vc_row]