Are you afraid to get out there and be bold? Reticent and shy in front of others? If this is a yes, I understand it and empathize with you… because I am constantly conquering fear. Can you imagine being in the military and afraid to speak up!?
Back then having a reticent personality, which used to hit me at odd intervals, made life difficult because I would be afraid to take chances. Why? I worried about others thought of me.
Now, and more and more I have found my voice.
The painful, bondage of shyness and fear is no longer my jailer. Perhaps I can be of assistance to you. Here is a list (yes, a list!)
Please note: Being introverted is NOT shyness. You can be an introvert and also bold and unafraid. Please read the definition of shyness and if that applies to you as it once did me, than continue to read.
1.being reserved or having or showing nervousness or timidity in the company of other people.
- Recognize it is an issue. This is probably THE most important thing you can do. Years ago, I thought it was no big deal. Until it was. I could not perform to the standard that I wanted to because of fear. This shyness hindered my growth and therefore, I would not take chances or I would allow others to think on my behalf. In addition, I allowed it to be a part of who I was. I was the quiet, shy person.
- Recognize that it is ego based. In my case, it was (and is when the lack of boldness and fear of what other will say pops up). If you have this fear on you, do NOT allow yourself or others to tell you it is no big deal. There are people out here that love to be victims and also enable or allow others to stay in a victim state. No excuses. If you want to change, change.
- Pray to the Lord about it. Ask for His help. He will help you. Period. (Please see below why this is step 3.)
- Change your focus from yourself to others. Taking the focus off myself has been a game changer. If you have not heard of Dani Johnson, check her out. I find that I love talking with people because I am so much more interested in the other person instead of worrying about my own fears.
- Thank the Lord as you notice improvement. I remember there was a time years ago when I was TERRIFIED of being on stage. Wow. Praise God.
About step 3. Prayer. I find there are different levels of fear. That we in life are constantly getting breakthrough over. As I recognize (through the Lord) that their is a problem involving fear, I pray to conquer it. This is an ongoing process of growth. Yeah 🙂